In my debut creative nonfiction novel, “Your crossroads. Your choice.,” I mention how I stumbled upon my new partner on this journey, who I refer to as M2. There is no way we would have connected so deeply if I did not have the beginnings of my current mindset when I met him. Yes, I said beginnings because changing how I look at myself, my life and my journey is an ongoing process – one I am happily enjoying everyday.
If I was still wallowing in my fearful, unhappy, self-pity perspective I am certain that we would have blown by like snowflakes in a storm. The old me was not ready to meet him, hear what he had to say and embrace the love he had to give me. M2 often sends motivational YouTube videos for me to listen to – and they are really impressive. If you have not had a moment to do this, try it. Simply search any phrase related to motivation or overcoming fear and a plethora of choices will appear. The videos M2 has sent me are incredibly empowering and leave me with a feeling of strength, confidence, and acceptance of both my accomplishments and setbacks.
Would You Live Forever?
Recently, one of the videos asked this – if you had the opportunity to live forever, would you? I scoffed at my tiny glowing rectangle and rolled my eyes. Who would say no? Despite what we may want to believe, none of us have any idea what happens when we die. And that scares the shit out of us.
As a scientist, I recognize that energy can not be created or destroyed. On a molecular level, I am at peace with the notion that my energy will be returned to the fabric of our universe. But is my energy linked to my consciousness? My essence? My soul? Or do I lose that when I take my last breath? Will I go to some gorgeous paradise where all of my friends and family that have passed on will be waiting for me? Or will my ability to “be” simply, disappear?
How do we overcome this fear? Or at least accept it and gently place it into a dark corner of our mind so we can enjoy our current life? We have to change our mindset. Yes, it is that simple. Change your mindset and you can change your whole life.
Still skeptical? Need an example? Let’s go back to that question from earlier in my post and my initial answer. I mean honestly, who wouldn’t want to permanently delete the scariest, most ultimate unknown from our lives? After some writing, I realized I wouldn’t. Knowing that my time on this planet, in this place of consciousness is limited, gives me desire. The desire to do everything I can with the time I have – not to waste a moment.
Infinite Time Leads To Infinite Complacency
Infinite time would allow complacency. An option to put things that scare me on a perpetual “To Do” list that I know might never be completed. As we all are, I am an expert at talking myself out of doing something that is new, scary, unknown, difficult or challenging. New experiences would cause me to have fear. That fear manifests into excuses and reasons why I could not do make the choice to do them. Endless time breeds endless excuses.
While writing my book, my mindset began to change. Rather than fear the unknown, I am going to celebrate every moment of the life I do know. Having a finite number of moments gives each one more meaning, makes each one more precious. When fear encroaches on my next big idea because it will, it always does, I will not allow it to stay. I am going to lead it back to its rightful place, in a lonely corner of my brain because I am no longer letting fear dictate the choices in my life. I am letting my heart and my intuition take control.
Time Moves So Fast
In one quick year, changes have already begun to happen. I see myself and my surroundings through a clearer lens, no longer clouded with judgment and worry. I look at my past as a cheat sheet of sorts. A way to keep pursuing things that make me happy, allow me to grow and challenge me as a person.
The things in my past that have made me sad I am also going to pay my respects to – but those are the things I will not repeat. Does this mean that the future can be described as a continuous surprise party thrown in my honor! As is your future, we all have surprises waiting for us. Each new day is a just that – a new day! A chance to do something that will make me happy, make my world a better place.
Now close your eyes and ask yourself the question I posed earlier – would you want to live forever? Think about saying no to this question. Look at life as a chance to be happy every single day. Do you remember the title of this post? Does your current life give you the answer you want to this question? Or do you need to change your mindset and take hold of the life you want to lead? A life based on your choices, one that will bring you happiness.