Emotional Pain Is REAL
If someone asked me what I would rather have happen – a solid punch to the gut or a glimpse into the mind of someone who was judging me, I would gladly accept the punch to the gut. Physical pain can be handled and forgotten. Emotional pain that comes from hearing negative words, even from a stranger, is devastating and long lasting. The bruise to your psyche you experience from some well positioned hate words will last well beyond any physical bruise you receive.
Did you ever notice, that our brains have a funny way of cycling these negative words? The spin on a never ending hamster wheel within our minds, keeps them just below the surface until you least expect it. Words have the ability to cut a person, deeply.
Emotional Cuts Are Deep
The hardest thing about these cuts is that they are invisible to the naked eye. Cuts made by words do not show to the outside world. They settle their emotional pain somewhere else. On your confidence or on your happiness and begin to eat away at your ability to believe in yourself.
All of those hamster wheels of negativity are spinning at warp speed in my mind right now. This is my very first blog post. Ever. Which means I am currently thinking of a thousand reasons why I may fail at this new venture. What I am beginning to realize however, is that among all the negative “what ifs” there is one positive “I can”.
That is what I am latching onto with all of my might. Life’s a bumpy, chaotic road that none of us have a map to. When you think about it, we are all in this together trying to stumble through with our best foot forwards. This works most of the time but at the end of the day, no one, not even the most powerful person on this chunk of space rock, has any idea what the future holds!
You Are In Control
Really puts your problems into perspective doesn’t it my friends? I am trying to grow personally and professionally everyday. To surround myself with people who believe in the same positive message that I am trying to pass on. That you and you alone have control over the choices you make at each of the crossroads you come to in life. You can choose to move forwards and pursue your happiness.
Or stay static. Choosing the happiness of others over my own. Sounds like a pretty common sense message doesn’t it? You see, I believe that the things that happen to us are not what make us special. They do not define who we are.
Instead, it is the choices we make at each of our crossroads and how we choose to handle what life throws at us that defines who we are. Everyone has gone through something terrible in their lives.
Treat Yourself With Kindness
Trying to compare your awful to theirs is a defeating exercise that will only result in hurt egos and feelings. We need to come together and realize that we are all stumbling through this playbook called life as blindly as our neighbors and could probably use a little help along the way.
My life has been dedicated to believing that I had to have the answer to everything, To know how every scenario was going to play out. I spent my life putting others happiness before my own to the point that I created an image of myself that I put on display to everyone. This was done while simultaneously burying my real true self.
This was so destructive that I was causing a critical piece of who I was to slowly die and I didn’t even realize it. I chose things at the crossroads of my life that made the people around me, my family and friends, happy. Why you ask?
Perhaps you should turn that question around on yourself my friends. Have you ever put someone else’s happiness before your own? If so, why? What was the reason for putting your choices on the back burner and allowing someone else to decide your path down that crossroads?
Take a moment and comment below. Tell me your story, share the decisions you have made at your crossroads. Who knows, maybe you will see a new direction. A new road, that you never knew existed that just might be the path you were meant to walk on.